Over the years we have seen the Constitution of Marriage taken too lightly. Husbands and wives are just leaving their oaths they made before God at the altar, and not taking them with them once they say I do. Maybe it has something to do with not understanding the roles each play. Maybe it has something to do with not understanding the justifiable reasons, from Gods word, that allows you to leave . Maybe its people being to anxious to say I do, and not knowing who they are actually marrying. Whatever the reason is, we will try to get to the bottom of it.
As the husband, you are the priest of your home. You are the mediator between God and your family. You are the provider and protector of your family. Sir, when god made you, He made you in His image(Genesis 1:26). That means you are suppose talk like God, act like God, move like God, think like God, and speak like God. At the same rate, when it comes to relations with your wife, you have very specific instructions on how to treat your wife. They are as following(Ephesians 5:25-28):
- Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
- Make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word.
- Present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
- Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
It’s that simple, but at some point we added or subtracted things to the laws of the Bible that we felt needed to be changed. Unfortunately, the word of God doesn’t work that way, and what you see is the final say.
As the wife, you are everything the husband isn’t. You are the nurturer. You are the secondary voice in the home. You are the balance to the mans life. You are literally the glue to all the pieces of the family. When God made you, He built you specifically for man, which is why you came from the rib of man(Genesis 2:22), which essentially means you were made specifically for one man. Furthermore, there are also specific instructions for you as a wife, and they are(Ephesians 5:22-24):
- Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
- For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
- Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
It’s as simple as that, but somewhere in the evolution of society, women changed the role and forgot laws that were written. I’m not saying she doesn’t have authority or rights, but you weren’t designed to play the role of the man.
- Sexual immorality (Matthew 5:32; 19:9) and
- Abandonment by an unbeliever (1 Corinthians 7:15).
Even in these two instances, divorce is not required or even encouraged. The most that can be said is that sexual immorality and abandonment are grounds (an allowance) for divorce. Confession, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration are always the first steps. Divorce should only be viewed as a last resort. But let me say this; don’t stay in any situation that jeopardizes your life or your wellbeing. I am a firm believer in transparency from the beginning, that way you get to see the good, the bad, and the ugly. Furthermore, you should not be unequally yoked to non believers. This includes marriage. A believer and a non believer have nothing in common, and I will leave it right there.
God is needed more, now than ever, back in our families, especially in our marriages. People are getting married for the wrong reasons, and the end result is two people being hurt. Get to know the person you are wanting to make this commitment with. Sir, take your time, but don’t take forever. Ma’am let him lead you, it’s ok as long as God is the head of his life. Love like God has instructed you both, and commit to doing this for the entirety of your marriage
~God created man for woman, and built the woman for man….